Finding the Beauty in Your Sky
The tone of this entry is likely to be a little different, but ultimately, we will see where the words on the page take me. Writing for me, it’s a journey. Not to sound too poetic here, but I guess you could say that each line is like a road, and sometimes those roads are smooth, but other times I’m wondering where all the tax money went to fix the potholes, so I guess we’ll see how many I hit between now and the end of this post.
Have you ever caught yourself
starring off in the distance? Maybe even looking up into the sky? Picture your
sky in whatever fashion comes easily to you. It could be pitch black or
scattered with stars; maybe the only light you see is the faint shade of yellow
coming from a nearby streetlight. Perhaps your sky is troubled by a brewing
storm, cloudy, gray, out of focus with a thick layer of fog. I don’t know what
sky you’re picturing right now, but in the moment this imagery came to mind for
me, I pictured a clear blue sky, the kind you see on the perfect spring or
summer day, with scattered puffy clouds that your child might point out their
favorite animal within its shape.
That sounds peaceful, right? I wish
that when I thought of that blue sky, the first thing that came to mind for me
was peace, but for myself, and so many others out there, in the depths of
depression, a clear blue sky is something we can get lost in, and yet, the last
thing on our mind is peace.
The truth is, sometimes when I’m
lost in that sky, its appearance has no influence on my state of mind at that
given moment. Often, one of two things is taking place, I’m either gazing off
into that distance, and my brain is numb, void of thought. I know the odds of
someone out there reading this, and thinking to themselves, that can’t be true,
our mind is never completely free of thought, is high. That person out there
likely thinks that I’m just spinning webs to make myself sound deep. If I could
talk to that person, I would say, you are partially right, our minds are
constantly at work, but for a person who struggles with depression, there are
moments that any thoughts floating around in the gray matter we call our brain,
are restricted by an invisible wall. The thoughts may be pounding on that wall,
screaming to break free, but for the depressed brain, it becomes white noise.
Those other times? The times that
invisible wall isn’t present, those are the moments I find myself lost in the
vastness of that clear blue, and it reminds me of how a depressed brain often
perceives time. The sky, it goes on forever, there’s no beginning and no ending
in sight. There are no barriers that allow our restricted human thought
processes to even begin to grasp its enormity.
Those moments when I am lost in the
magnitude of the sky, and all I can think about is how I relate it to time,
those are the most agonizing moments. When a person has fallen into such a deep
pit of depression that it begins to impact their ability to function in
day-to-day life, when they’ve felt the torture in the thought of living another
day, another moment, taking another painful shaky breath, time ends up feeling
infinite. When all a person wants is a moment of peace, to find true joy, that
they probably lost a long time ago, and they feel they’ve searched every avenue
in effort to resolve that battle that is going on within them, one more day
feels like eternity.
Look, I understand that is not a
rational thought, but the depressed mind isn’t rational. The logical side of me
can go back to my Christian faith and remember that God’s word tells me that
our lives are but a mere vapor. His word tells me that our time is fleeting,
and there will quickly come a time when we return to the ground that we were
formed from, but I want you to stop for a moment, if you have not felt the
crushing weight of the depression I am describing, and I want you to really sit
with the words you have just read, what conclusion do you come to? What is the
most likely thought process for the irrational depressed mind, when it is
presented with those words from the scriptures?
I can tell you that someone
struggling with that level of depression doesn’t view those words in the manner
that they were intended, which is an urging, a pleading, a reminder that our
time here is short, that there is not always going to be tomorrow to do those
things God is calling out to you to do, those scriptures are God’s heart crying
out for you to no longer put off doing whatever it is that he desires for you,
chiefly, accepting Jesus and living for him.
Just this past week, I had a self-proclaimed minister support the words of some random Instagram user, who told me that anyone who attempts, or commits suicide cannot possibly be saved, because if they were, they would be grateful for Jesus dying on the cross for them, and taking your own life isn’t being grateful. (This isn’t a verbatim transcription of the post(s) I’m referencing, but I’m confident in my interpretation if the intended message of those words.
I want everyone who reads this, who may have not felt the suffocating weight of depression to this degree, to sit with the truth, for just a moment, that it is completely possible for a Christian to suffer from depression. People like Job, and if memory serves me, David, and Moses felt such a magnitude of oppression, hopelessness, and depression that they asked God to take them out of this world.
Please understand me, I am in no way
advocating suicide as an answer. If my words steer you at all in that
direction, stop what you are doing and reach out to me via Twitter (@BradH84)
and I will connect with you via phone, because if no one else can be there for
you in that moment, I’ll gladly take up that cross and bare it with you, until
we see you past it. However, the point I am attempting to set the stage for
with this line of thinking is this, when you are a Christian, and you believe
with all of your heart, that when you take your last breath, you will be in the
presence of God, free of all pain, sorrow, and tears, taking your own life can
seem like the most effective way to achieve the peace you’ve not been able to
find on earth.
I know that for some Christians,
this is true because I am speaking from experience. In the days leading up to
my suicide attempt, and on March 3rd, 2021, when I made the decision
to follow through with the attempt, the thought on my mind, was that I couldn’t
take another second of the battle. I thought that I was done fighting, and I
believed that if I were successful in taking my life, I would be free of that
pain, and in that moment, it felt like it was my only option.
For some, that thought process might
seem completely logical, but it’s not, God did not intend his words to be
perverted and used as the catalyst to remove yourself from this world. Those
pieces of scripture are not urges to push you to a decision that would rip you
from your loved ones. Those scriptures were urges to turn to God, and I also
believe a reminder, to the believer, that there is light at the end of the dark
tunnels they might travel through in this messed up world.
I know that things get dark, so dark
you cannot see clearly to take even another step, but if you woke up today,
your time on this earth isn’t done, God still has a purpose for every life,
every breath, and every heartbeat. Hold on to that in the bleakest moments. If
you can’t see an end to the pain, believe that there can still be a purpose
worked out through your life, even during it.
I’ll leave you with the same thing I
mentioned in my previous post, for the person contemplating ending their life,
you have two choices. You’re either going to be a statistic for suicide, or
you’re going to let God work through your mess to make a positive impact on
this world.
Romans
8:28 “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him
and are called according to his purpose.”
We’ve all heard the phrase “Lord,
bless this mess.” I truly believe, that if we fully submit, God can, and will
take the worst that life has to offer, the thing that Satan meant to use as a
tool to destroy you, and he will flip the entire situation on its head and
shape it into something that breathes life into someone in their darkest
moment.
❤️❤️❤️❤️
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